Would you rather be idolized or be an inspiration? Think about it long enough to get beyond the initial ego responses in your head. The answers among you all likely vary based on several factors, not the least of which might be age, gender or where you are in your monthly cycle. Nonetheless, I find this topic highly appropriate for consideration as we move into the New Year and this new paradigm.
I received an invitation from a group of self-proclaimed spiritual pioneers who had put together a New Year's Eve weekend retreat. The email had a fun "spiritual-looking" sacred geometry graphic, a list of speakers and performers with short bio's below their name and titles. The bio's were filled with words like "Award winning..., Grammy winning..., Award Nominated..., internationally known..., most prolific...", etc. I GET IT. I'd be happy to call myself any of those things but what got me about the invitation was that it read like a Hollywood sales pitch. It felt cheap and I felt slightly offended. There was less information about what the weekend had to offer me in the way of growth, expansion or learning. In fact, I was at a loss as to what the weekend was really all about. I knew who would be there and what their most glamorous accomplishments were, but I still knew next to nothing about them or the weekend. What were they trying to sell me exactly? And why were these points seemingly the things I needed to know first and foremost? It made me question how far we have come in our spiritual evolution and in the taming of the EGO.
I found the invitation most uninspiring AND I WANT TO BE INSPIRED!
So, I'm wondering what the rest of the world is looking for. If I want to know what someone is looking for, I just ask WHAT THEY MOST WANT TO BE. I ask you all again, would you prefer to be idolized or be an inspiration? (Don't say both; it muddles the point.)
Definition of Idolize:
to worship as a god; deify; to love or admire to excess; over-praise.
Here's what I have observed about idolization from the view point of a "healer". When I have observed someone that I perceive is idolizing another, it looks as if they are giving a great deal of their love and power over to that person. I have heard such remarks from the idolizer as, "He/she is so awesome! He/she is the best singer, dancer, actor ever. I could never do that." It's an act of both transferring an enormous amount of praise, while simultaneously affirming their own inability to be as wonderful. Heartbreaking. I find it baffling to watch the positive energy transference onto another being with whom one knows almost nothing about...I have observed this with people who idolize sports figures, politicians, scientists and spiritual gurus. It matters not who or what they are idolizing. The point is that they seem to forget that in the holographic model of the Universe, EVERY PART OF THE WHOLE CONTAINS THE WHOLE. There is nothing in another that is not also in you. Good, bad or otherwise.
The attractions that we feel towards others are almost always based on one thing; that person is emanating an energy from their being that we would like to experience ourselves. Sure, you can absorb some of the energy by being in close proximity to or in relationship with that person. But you can never KNOW that energetic expression without allowing it to up well from the core of your being. When one makes space for that energy to up well from the core, that frequency radiates out into the cells of the body and becomes a fully integrated and cellular knowing in the physical body. In essence, it becomes a part of you. There is no way you can fully absorb it from another!
So, the next time you find yourself, or another idolizing someone or chasing after a relationship with someone based on wanting to be LIKE them, take pause. Take a beat. Take a breath. Hold back the impulse to run toward them and bathe them in your positive projections. Look at what it is in them that you find wonderful. Thank that being for showing you a strong expression of that/those essences and begin the process of cultivating those qualities in yourself. If you do not believe you have those qualities, ask yourself what is blocking you from knowing that as a possibility for you.
Perhaps if we bring ourselves back to ourselves, we can create some true and genuine appreciation for others, without losing or leaving any aspect of the self. And idolization can turn to reverence and inspiration for our own growth and unfolding.
As we move into this New Year and this New Paradigm, let's not have it be the same novel with a different cover. Let's TRULY re-write the script. And for the love of humans, can we PLEASE model this for the younger generations!? Pretty please, with sparkly, fairy-dusted, internationally known, spiritual, organic, non-gmo, prolific and award winning cherries on top.